Me vs Myself

Me, myself, and I may refer to the same person, but they are not interchangeable. Myself should be the one you hear the least, but it’s often used incorrectly in place of me.


Me is an object pronoun, which means that it refers to the person that the action of a verb is being done to, or to whom a preposition refers.

They want me to study more.

Tell me a story.

Between you and me, he’s right.

Carol wants to meet with John and me tomorrow.

The book was written entirely by me.

Please call Hillary or me with any questions.


Myself is a reflexive or stressed pronoun, which means that, generally speaking, it should be used in conjunction with the subject pronoun I, not instead of the object pronoun me.

I bought myself a car.

I myself started the company.

I did the laundry by myself.

I feel like myself again.

Tired of waiting, I just did it myself.

The Bottom Line

Myself can be used for stress, but most grammarians won’t allow it to be used alone – they reject constructions like “Carol wants to meet with John and myself” (correct: with John and me) and “The book was written entirely by myself” (correct: by me personally).

Just remember that myself can be reflexive (I’m doing something to/for myself) or emphatic (I myself). Otherwise, you probably want to use me.

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9 comments for “Me vs Myself

  1. Tony S.
    14 November 2014 at 11:38

    The correct way to write “Carol wants to meet with John and myself” is “Carol wants to meet with John and I,” right?

    • lkl
      14 November 2014 at 12:28

      No. “With” is a preposition, and you can’t use I after a preposition. The correct sentence is “Carol wants to meet with John and me.” See for more info.

    • Betsy MD
      18 November 2014 at 11:08

      No, the correct would be: “Carol wants to meet with John and me”
      If you take John out of the sentence, it would not be “Carol wants to meet with I”, it would be “Carol wants to meet with me” so anything else you add doesn’t change the “me”. To some people, it may sound better to the ear if you say “Carol wants to meet with me and John”.

  2. Paula Couto
    11 December 2014 at 18:09

    When I write a dialogue, which one (pronoun) do I use?

    For example:

    Andy: How are you?
    Me: I’m fine, thank you.

    “Me” is correct?

    • lkl
      12 December 2014 at 08:20

      Yes, “me” is correct there.

  3. Bruce Ciccone
    2 January 2015 at 13:32

    Which is correct? Your gift was very thoughtful and appreciated by (Rosemarie and me) or (Rosemarie and myself)

    • lkl
      2 January 2015 at 13:39

      “by Rosemarie and me”

  4. Kristin
    9 January 2015 at 11:16

    Which is correct? The patient will either be followed by Dr. Smith or me, or The patient will either be followed by Dr. Smith or myself?

    • lkl
      9 January 2015 at 17:23

      Me, as explained in “the bottom line.”

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